I haven’t put pen to paper about this, but it’s been sitting on my mind. Maybe I’ll have time to come back and really process it later, but for now, here are two things that stood out to me recently.
First, I finally—finally—completed A Woman Shall Not Live by Sex Alone as an eBook.
And that felt like a big deal. Not just because of the content itself, but because finishing things has always been my biggest challenge. I can get excited at the beginning of a project, full of energy and ideas—woo hoo, let’s do this! But as the process drags on, that initial spark can fade, and momentum becomes harder to maintain. It’s been at least three or four years since I’ve actually created and published something, which is wild because it’s not like I haven’t had ideas.
This book should have been released two years ago, but I wasn’t in the right space to focus on creative projects like that. And instead of beating myself up about it, I’m learning to let go of the guilt and just be happy when I do complete something. Because for me, creating is never about bragging or showing off. That’s not the point. I know what it takes to get from Point A to Point B, and I respect the work behind anyone’s success.
That’s why I believe in celebrating others. When someone I know is excited about something they’re working on, I want to celebrate with them. But honestly, that’s a new mindset for me. Celebrating in general—whether it’s my own accomplishments or someone else’s—has never come naturally.
My very first blog was about learning to celebrate small steps. At the time, I had just finished my undergrad, got accepted into a master’s program, bought a house—big things were happening. But I didn’t know how to celebrate them. I didn’t grow up celebrating much. Holidays, birthdays, personal milestones—that just wasn’t a thing. And as an adult, I’ve never really changed that. Even now, I still don’t fully know how to celebrate.
But I also know it’s not right to just keep moving forward without acknowledging progress. It’s easy to take things for granted, to accomplish something and immediately move on to the next thing. Even the small wins—like turning in an assignment on time—are worth recognizing. And as I grow, I want to be more intentional about appreciating progress, both in my own life and in others’.
The second thing that stood out to me was something I was excited about—only to be met with a very strong opposing reaction. And instead of advocating for myself or defending my perspective, I just… didn’t respond. Not because I didn’t have a response, but because I’ve decided I’m not about to argue with people. That’s just not where my energy is going.
It made me reflect on the kind of person I want to be. I know that relationships—real, meaningful connections with people—haven’t always been my strength. But as long as I’m still breathing, I have the opportunity to grow. And that’s what matters.
A change of heart. A change of mind. A shift toward celebrating the small things, the big things, and everything in between. Because life isn’t meant to be taken for granted.
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